New Years’ resolutions have a nasty habit of remaining unfulfilled. Sure, we eventually mean to get around to accomplishing the goals we’ve set for ourselves, but we never actually nut up and do it. Instead, we procrastinate. We make excuses, we distract ourselves, and we ultimately fall into a routine of stubbornly failing to accomplish anything. It’s something of a New Years’ tradition.
Have you ever thought that the problem might not be with us, but with the goals we’re setting for ourselves?
Think of a resolution as an obstacle which you’re tasked with overcoming using whatever self-improvement tools in your arsenal. Keep in mind that those tools can only do so much – and can only go so far – before they reach the limits of their usefulness. What I’m basically trying to say here is that unless you set reasonable, realistic goals for yourself, you may as well be trying to use a hammer to demolish a skyscraper.
To that end, I’ve put together a few basic guidelines to keep in mind when putting together your resolution, to help you ensure that you’ll actually be able to achieve it.
Choose One Thing to Improve Upon
The first, most important piece of advice I can give is to keep things simple. It’s better to successfully and significantly improve one element of your life than it is to try haphazardly taking on ten different goals (and failing to achieve any of them). This year, think of one trait, flaw, or routine you want to be rid of or improve upon above all others, and focus exclusively on that.
Draw Up A Plan
Once you’ve figured out what you want to work on, it’s time to put together a game plan. A New years’ Resolution isn’t something you can simply blunder towards, after all: it’s an ongoing process, consisting of multiple steps, goals, and pitfalls. If you’ve got at least a basic plan for each step of that process, you’ll maximize your chances of actually succeeding. Basically, you’re going to need to do a bit of homework.
Let’s say, for example, that you want to lose weight. You …read more